Butch Women Talk About What It Means to Be Butch. Originally posted by them on Youtube. Excerpts featuring Cade Russo Young, a 37 year-old butch dyke.

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What isn’t sexy about other butches, are you kidding! Oh, my god!
To me, butch means someone who I was brought up by, and admire.
Butch is nuanced.
Butch is more than we’ve been talking about.
Just because I identify as a butch dyke and a cis woman right now, it doesn’t mean I always will.
Who you are, right now in this moment, is perfect. And if that changes, you’ll be perfect in that moment too.

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Living alone leads to habits that you don’t realize are weird until you stay with someone else and have to suppress them.

I’m staying with family right now and I can’t just go “AUGH” like a peanuts character in the middle of the night just because I feel like it. I also can’t lick cooking utensils anymore because other people are gonna be eating that. And I can’t rant to my Swedish horse because I left that at home and also ranting to an inanimate object in the middle of the house would make me look insane.

I was talking to my aunt about this because she also lives alone and we agree that when you start living alone you need to start making more noises when you do things like grunting when you get up and yelling at annoying inanimate objects because you need to fill the space somehow. But when suddenly other people are around you’re now in the habit of whistling whenever you open a cabinet and people who have never lived alone don’t understand what you’re doing.

If you ever stay with somebody who lives alone for a few days and they start randomly doing squats in the middle of the kitchen and clicking their teeth or making noises at birds outside, just let them. Believe it or not those are methods of preserving sanity. Shaking the fridge and demanding it give you answers is a shield against the impeding darkness.

Why do you have an inanimate horse in the middle of the house

Family tradition.

Uh oh.

Oh bother 😔

[ID: A Pooh stuffed animal in the Star Trek transporter: "As Pooh Bear prepared to beam down, he realized he was wearing a red shirt"]

My bf studied japanese in high school and often says "gambate!" (not sure of spelling) to be like. encouraging. I think it means roughly "let's get this bread." However, as someone who took spanish in high school, it always sounds like a command to me. And as near as I can tell, in spanish it would mean "go shrimp yourself."

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I'm definitely not a fluent speaker, so I could be wrong, but here's how I got there:

In Spanish, some (informal, I think?) commands are formed by dropping the "r" from the end of an infinitive verb. (Every infinitive verb in Spanish ends in r.) For example, "to run" is "correr." If you want to tell someone to run, it's "corre." If you want to tell someone to do something to something/someone, you append a little pronoun thing to the end. From "besar" (to kiss) we get "bésame" (kiss me). From "cocinar" (to cook) we get "cocínalo" (cook it). From "callar" (to silence) we get "cállate" (silence yourself/shut up).

So, "gambate" immediately reminds me of "cállate," which is a rude command. It would be formed from the verb "gambar" and the second person object "te" for "you/yourself." But "gambar" isn't a word in Spanish. However, "gamba" is a word. It means "shrimp." So while it isn't technically grammatically correct, in the same way we "verb" nouns in English, the noun "gamba" is being used in the place of a verb here. "Gambate" (or more properly "gámbate" to maintain the correct stress for both the Spanish and Japanese). "Go shrimp yourself."

Native spanish speaker. You're quite right about your linguistics here, and spanish speakers love to make up new words by conjugating existing words (at the very least, my parents do)

My confusion stemmed from never having heard the word gamba before. To my knowledge the word for shrimp is camarón

So i looked it up and apparently gamba actually means prawn. So it's actually go prawn yourself

Absolutely perfect addition thank you

something so intimate about handmade stuff, handmade bread, handmade presents, or handwritten letters, in general intimacy and tenderness are stored in hands, in holding hands and playing with each other's fingers, warming each other's hands...

(Yannis Ritsos)

i mean this in the gentlest way possible: you need to eat vegetables. you need to become comfortable with doing so. i do not care if you are a picky eater because of autism (hi, i used to be this person!), you need to find at least some vegetables you can eat. find a different way to prepare them. chances are you would like a vegetable you hate if you prepared it in a stew or roasted it with seasoning or included it as an ingredient in a recipe. just. please start eating better. potatoes and corn are not sufficient vegetables for a healthy diet.

Need it to be easier?

• baby carrots (good dipped in ranch)
• Celery sticks (add some peanut butter or cream cheese for extra flavor and protein)
• Broccoli (good with ranch, cheese, or salt/pepper/butter)
• Canned peas (you can microwave in a microwave-safe bowl. Good with salt/pepper/butter)
• Bell peppers (cut into strips, good with cream cheese)
• Canned green beans (can be microwaved in microwave-safe bowl. Good with salt/pepper/butter)
• Hummus (good with crackers or tortilla chips)
• Salsa (good with tortilla chips)
• Guacamole (good with tortilla chips)

Need it in something?

Can't see it:

• Hummus
• salsa
• Guacamole

Can see but disguised flavor (can usually be found store bought or done at home and use different veggies):

• Dressed up ramen - just toss in some random veggies in ramen of your choice. Pretty much everything I've tried goes fine with it.
• Chicken pot pie
• Vegetable soup (with so many together it's hard to taste any specific one!)
• Chicken noodle soup
• Sweet and sour pork (haven't tried it but chicken should be fine in place of pork)

Texture problems:

Need it soft:

• Hummus
• Salsa
• Guacamole
• Cooked carrots
• Avocados
• Beans (personally I prefer black beans and canned baked beans)
• Peas (make sure to cook well, great value brand has the softest peas I've tried)
• Cooked broccoli (note: it does smell bad while cooking)
• Cooked asparagus (note: also smells bad while cooking)
• Cooked zucchini and squash (good together but can be eaten separate)
• You can also puree most vegetables and eat with a spoon or use them as a dip

Needs to be crunchy:

• Raw carrots
• Raw celery
• Raw bell peppers
• Salad (remember you can put whatever you want in it! Even if that means no lettuce)
• Most veggies are okay raw, and are usually very crunchy

Veggies google says stay crunchy after lightly cooking:

• Snap peas
• Brussel sprouts
• Cabbage
• Water chestnut
• Bamboo shoots

Broad texture tips:

• You can change textures by eating raw, cooking, chopping, pureeing, etc
• You can separate different textures to use in different ways (ie using broccoli tops in a soup and eating the bottoms raw)

It also really helps to think about why you dislike a vegetable. I found that I am scared of green foods so I like to use those veggies for ingredients in things they are well hidden for. I've also learned that watching something while eating helps because then I'm not looking at the gross green things. When possible, I also like to get help hiding it (ie using cream of celery soup in my chicken and dumplings).

if you don't like the acrid, bitter flavor of raw or steamed brassicas (broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, brussel sprouts) the best fix is to toss them in olive oil with chicken salt, fry seasoning, or old bay, spread them flat on a baking sheet, and roast them in the oven for 20-30 minutes at 420 F. take them out when they're a bit brownish on the edges. they will have a rich, savory, smokey taste. cauliflower gets a meaty, roasted flavor, brussels sprouts and broccoli taste nutty, while carrots and zucchini get sweeter. can't recommend roasted veggies strongly enough.

Just occurred to me that when you go to Ikea you don't have to limit yourself to one lap. You can go around a second time.

You can go around a second time, but is the temptation worth it

What is even the point of Ikea if you don't talk yourself into 3 new kitchen gadgets and an unnecessary blahaj

Lots of passionate defenders of the necessity of blahaj in the notes

Wtf is a blahaj????

Him.

Wait, the blahaj is an actual item? I thought it was a made-up, stand-in word meaning 'any sort of thing that you see at the IKEA gives you joy'. Like those tiny pans, or new pillows because the cover match your cat or something